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  FAQ's for  Friends

How do we match volunteers with children?

Friends vs. Mentoring

Why is Friends not affiliated with Big Brothers/Big Sisters of America?

Does Mentoring Help?

What kind of kids does Friends serve?


How do we match volunteers with children?

The match process depends on the child's preferences, the volunteer's experience/preferences, and the family's preferences.

Each volunteer undergoes a rigorous screening process.  Through this process, Friends assesses the best appropriate match through different means:

1.        Volunteer’s experience and/or training with children.

2.       Volunteer’s preferences (age, interests, activity level, etc.)

3.       Child’s preferences (age, interests, activity level, etc.)

4.       Family’s preferences

 

Friends does NOT match children on first come, first serve basis.  Each volunteer is unique as well as the families and children that are in the program.


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Friends vs. Mentoring

Friends views that friendships need to develop first before an adult friend can "mentor" a youth. Youth want someone to talk to and bond with someone before they can trust an adult for more personal issues.

According to many research articles, children do better in long-term relationships with adults than short-term relationships.  Children need to feel that they can trust the adult will not leave, the adult is not there to "fix" their issues, but truely cares for them.  As the adult friend and children bond during their first year of friendship, then their relationship can develop into mentoring.  Children want to know that the adult is genuine before they will want to do well in school, care about attendance, learn positive communication and behaviors, etc.


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Why is Friends not affiliated with Big Brothers/Big Sisters of America?

Friends is very similar to Big Brothers/Big Sisters of America, however, the founding members of Friends wanted to tailor the program to the needs of the community, plus, the funds generated in Walla Walla to support Friends is used by Friends. None of the donations are given to a national office.

Friends is quite similar to Big Brother/Big Sisters of America, but there has never been a chapter of BBBS in Walla Walla. The focus of the BBBS chapters is in urban areas.  Friends decided to keep control of the  program, to tailor the policies and design of services for the Walla Walla community.  We also did not want to send a percentage of Friends donations to a national office.


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Does Mentoring Help?

Yes, in many different ways. The long term effects of a positive adult role model in a child's life can help them improve in school, peers, self-esteem, prevention and reduction in high-risk behaviors (i.e. drug/alcohol use), and trusted adults more.

Child Trends (February, 2002) article reviewed studies of ten youth mentoring programs, including both national and locally based programs, such as Big Brothers/Big Sisters of America.  The review compares youth randomly assigned to a mentoring program with a group of similar youth who were not assigned.  They found youth participating in mentoring relationships were:

·    50% more likely to have fewer absences from school;

·    more likely to attend college;

·    placed a higher value on school;

·    46% less likely to initiate drug use (minority youth were 70% less likely);

·    27% less likely to initiate alcohol use;

·    committed fewer misdemeanors and felonies after program participation;

·    33% less likely to hit someone;

·   had more positive attitudes toward the future, the elderly, and toward helping in general; and

·   felt they trusted their parents more and communicated better with them.

 

A 40-year study found that nearly 70% of the kids living in the worst conditions are able to thrive nevertheless, if they are emotionally connected to some adult and within a community (Werner, 1989).

 

Extensive research confirms:
•Children who have an adult mentor are far less likely to engage in high-risk behaviors.

•Healthy bonding is a significant factor in children’s resistance to drug/alcohol use, violence, crime, and other problem behaviors.

•When children have a relationship with adult volunteers they improve their sense of well-being and their relationships with their parents.

•Children involved in mentoring relationships have a better attitude toward school, better attendance, and a better chance of going on to higher education.

•Prevention and intervention programs for children are valuable community investments.

 

Prevention and intervention programs for children are far less expensive than dealing with the end result of high risk behavior, such as involvement in the Juvenile Justice system.  The Washington State Institute for Public Policy has studied the mentoring program in Washington's juvenile justice system, finding it reduced recidivism, or re-offending, and returns $3.58 of benefit to society for every dollar spent.

 


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What kind of kids does Friends serve?

Friends matches children ages 6 to 17 who genuinely want an adult friend. Friends is a completely voluntary program for volunteers, children, and families.

The legal caregiver of the child must give permission for the child to participate and has to fulfill participation guidelines by completing all required forms and interviews.
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